How long does counseling last?

One of the most common questions I get when talking with a new client is: “How many sessions will this take?” Almost all potential clients are curious about the commitment they will need to make in order for counseling to have positive benefits on their life. Unfortunately, there is no exact prescription for how long counseling will last because each client enters the room with unique experiences and needs. So….the true and probably annoying answer is: everyone is different. With that said, I thought it might be helpful to address the life cycle of the counseling relationship from my perspective, hoping it might dispel some of the fears someone might have around starting the counseling process.

I always like to mention to potential clients that they have the right to choose a counselor who is a good fit for them. You may need to do a few different initial sessions or phone consultations before you find the right professional. Every counselor has a unique style and perspective, and you can find the one that is right for you. But it’s also important to mention that a good counselor will challenge you and encourage you to grow, so don’t mistake hard work for being with the wrong therapist!

With that said, once you find a counselor you trust and can connect with, the rest of the process can look many different ways. Some clients come in with situations or challenges that only require short term counseling. These clients usually come with a specific goal they are wanting to work towards such as processing a break-up, working through a recent trauma, or getting tools to have a hard conversation. In these cases counseling might last anywhere from two to six sessions and often takes a brief/ solution focused therapeutic approach.

I have also seen clients on a more seasonal basis. They come to counseling for a period of time, take a break, and then return when they have more to work through. This is often the case during the Winter months when more people are struggling with symptoms of depression or Seasonal Affective Disorder. I have worked with clients for several months, we decide together to end therapy, and then they reach out again when another challenging life event comes their way. For example, I worked with one young man for 6 months processing events from his childhood. After six months we both agreed he had met his goals and was ready to stop coming to counseling. About a year later he reached out because he was engaged and ready to do some pre-marital work. It was a joy to hear from him again and be able to walk with them through a new season. All of these situations are considered normal in the therapeutic process. 

Counseling can also be a longer process. For struggles such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, ongoing trauma and struggles with low self-worth, they can be life long battles and clients may benefit from ongoing support. Some people have no other place in their lives where they can speak openly and take a honest look at the things they battle with daily. In these situations, I have seen clients anywhere from six to twelves months, sometimes even years. Sessions may not be weekly, but we maintain a therapeutic relationship that continues to support their growth and changing needs. This is some of the most rewarding work I have done as a counselor as I get to join clients on their journey and walk with them through many ups and downs.

Whether you are considering counseling with one specific goal in mind, or you are ready to tackle a long standing battle in your life, know that reaching out for help is a courageous first step towards healing and living a full life.